When One Has Lived a Long Time Alone
Prairie Chicken |
People keep asking how I am settling in to prairie
living.
I could tell them about the long fall, astonishing for its
temperate days and nights, that I sleep with the window open and have scarcely
worn anything covering my legs from October to December. Or, that I feel like I’ve plummeted half a
dozen climate zones instead of just two, and, disappointingly, my commute to
work is not one minute shorter than it was when I snaked 3000 feet down James
and Lefthand canyons to Boulder--only now it’s pocked with traffic lights and
lots and lots of cars.
But that’s not what my friends are asking, I know. They want to know how I’m settling in to living
with Greg.
elvis and me |
I’ve long said my chop wood, carry water lifestyle on top of
Overland mountain among deer and coyote and fox was a bit legendary among my
flat land friends, but so too was my single all these years life. Before I met the city-dwelling boyfriend, it
was just me and my dog, elvis, and before that, just me. I’ve spent most of my years bearishly
independent and, with the exception of the obligatory 20s and early 30s
roommates, living alone. That I moved in
with my artist-lover is nothing short of a bolt from the blue.
It all feels a little strange. Greg and I have taken to saying to each other
“Hey, we’re living together” in the kind of surprised tone we used when we saw
a rare pair of ringed neck doves out of their elevation and at the mountain
feeder last winter. Older and having
lived a long time alone, we’re both still returning to “the place where one’s
ties with the human/broke, where the disquiet of death and now/ also of history
glimmers its firelight on faces” (from “When One Has Lived a Long Time Alone”).
Breakfast in bed: One great thing about living together |
There are those times in your life when you blink and things
have changed. Greg and I have a new home
together on the prairie where we wake to the embrace of each other’s arms and
watch pink clouds light lighten the winter sky. We are developing a routine of work and
making food and art, he in his studio and me in my office, and it’s all new and
good and just a bit odd, like a pair of jeans you haven’t quite worn long
enough.
There are other changes too:
This morning I found out Galway Kinnell, the writer of the previous
lines of poetry, had died. In the flurry
of moving and trying to get settled in, the news, now almost two months old,
escaped my notice, a blossom now withered on the vine.
Kinnell is one of the poets Greg and I fell in love to. He is one of the great writers of frank,
sensual love poems. We’ve often taken
his books on picnics and trips, his mountain-like poems dotting the landscape
along the way. And I have long taken
Kinnell’s “The Bear” as a model for how to be an artist in the world: You must stalk the thing you love, you must
become it.
Arugula salad with shaved parmesan |
I have made an art out of being alone, out of taking silence
and weather as my only lovers. It’s time
to reenter the world “to stand/ in a light of being united”: Wherever Greg is, I am, and we are together: “kingdom
come.” Tonight, my love and I will celebrate
the inspiration of a great poet. There
will be verse and the crisp taste of cava paired with something earthy like
smoked oysters and a bit of the duck pate I have left from France on a good crusty
baguette. I’ll make arugula with truffle
oil, lemon and shaved parmesan--more earth mixed with the slightly bitter and bright
taste of fresh herbs. I want to be reminded of the tastes of this life, the range
of flavors and possibility, of Kinnell’s lovely lines: “they
don’t make love, but are earth-creatures/who live and…/fuck one another forever
if possible across the stars.” (“The Waking”). So there will also be Chicken alla Diavola, an
Italian preparation I’d overlooked until now, a dish astonishing in its
simplicity and taste.
Chicken alla Diavolo: "You must stalk the thing you love, you must become it." |
Goodbye dear friend, and my old life. Welcome my new.
from “When One Has Lived a Long Time Alone” by Galway
Kinnell
When one has lived a long time alone,
one wants to live again among men and women,
to return to that place where one's ties with the human
broke, where the disquiet of death and now
also of history glimmers its firelight on faces,
where the gaze of the new baby looks past the gaze
of the great-granny, and where lovers speak,
on lips blowsy from kissing, that language
the same in each mouth, and like birds at daybreak
blether the song that is both earth's and heaven's,
until the sun has risen, and they stand
in a light of being united: kingdom come,
when one has lived a long time alone.
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